You might notice that the last two pictures here look a little different from the others, that’s because they’re unedited. Those two pics are 100% real-no filter, no editing tools, nothing. If you scroll back up to the two pictures before them you’ll notice they are the same exact pictures, but edited. I think it’s so important that we talk about the standards that social media puts on us as women and how quite often people aren’t nearly as perfect as they seem to be when you see their pictures online.
2017 was an interesting year for me, I married the love of my life, I turned 30, and I got acne. One of those things was not nearly as fun as the others haha. Now, I know what many of you are thinking, a recently married 30-year-old who has always had clear skin suddenly has acne out of nowhere, she must be pregnant. Let me just clear the air now, I’m not pregnant, the acne is from a medical condition. I’m not going to lie, it has bothered me way more than it should have. I have always been a pretty self-confident person, but at the age of 30 I’ve probably found myself more conscious about my appearance than I have been my entire life. I’m lucky enough to have a husband who tells me every day how beautiful I am, even when I haven’t washed my hair in two days, have no makeup on, and feel anything but pretty. Everyone should have someone lifting their confidence like this, but unfortunately I know that’s not the case :( Isn’t it crazy how society sets such high standards that literally nobody can live up to, making us feel bad about ourselves just because of how we look? Even with makeup, it wasn’t easy for me to share these unedited pictures. But, I want to keep it real. I don’t want anyone to think I’m perfect, because I’m far from it. There are still some days when I get down about my skin changes, but here’s what I’ve learned and what I’m focusing on for 2018:
Don’t Believe Everything You See
Social media puts such unrealistic standards on appearance nowadays. Like most women, I often find myself looking at others and wishing that I had her perfect skin or toned body or thick hair. But, I’m going to guess that I’m not the only person who edits their pictures. Even a filter can really change someone’s appearance, which is why we all love them! And that’s ok! But, keep this in mind when you’re looking at other women and thinking how perfect they are. They aren’t, nobody’s perfect.
Focus on What Really Matters & TEACH That to Others
When my mom, Courtnee, and I decided we wanted to start this journey, we all agreed that we wanted to create our business around positivity and focus on supporting other women. We want to show women that they are ALL beautiful, no matter how you look or what size you wear. We want to be the best role models possible for our nieces, daughters, and granddaughters. A few times my niece, Sofia, has asked me "Uncle Meg, what's that bump on your face" (yes, she calls me Uncle Meg no matter how many times we correct her haha) and I just respond with "oh, that's just a pimple, Sof!" and just go about playing with her. I always remind myself not to say negative things like "ugh those are ugly zits" or "I look so fat in this outfit" around my nieces. Those phrases are the things things that teach children that different appearances are ugly. And it’s okay to tell someone they look beautiful, but you know what? It’s also great to tell a woman she’s smart, she’s funny, she’s intelligent, she’s a badass, she’s hardworking, and a million other things that have nothing to do with appearance. The world needs more of that.
Know Your Worth
As a woman, don’t ever question your worth. Appearance isn’t what matters in the end. Be honest. Be confident. Be generous. Be sincere. Be hardworking. Be kind. Be true to yourself. Be funny. Be compassionate. Be brave. Be truthful. Be YOU. That’s what people will remember. That’s what matters. I’ll leave you all with this recent post by Cameran Eubanks (LOVE her!) which perfectly describes how we feel about teaching the next generation about beauty vs. worth.
This year I'm going to do my best to not be so hard on myself or get down about my appearance and I challenge you to do the same. Let's change the way the world puts beauty first and make positivity, kindness, and self-worth the standards for the future.
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